WORKSHOP SUMMARIES
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Fear For many men, the admission of fear is quite difficult. In
some cases, it has been ingrained in them from the streets and/or prison. For others, it was taught in the home. Whatever
the source, it will be necessary for men to accept, that their fear has hindered their growth process, and their ability to
confront some critical areas of their lives.
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Guilt For many men, especially those returning home from prison and those with substance abuse issues, there are immense
issues of guilt that often paralyzes them from being involved in the lives of their children and other family members. This
session unveils the beliefs attached to this emotion and its effect on the individual.
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Grief and Loss The preceding sessions regarding the emotions of “fear” and “guilt” are included in this
session due to the connection amid them all. Participants will be directed to identify how they responded
to previous loss/separation and understand that there is a grieving process when parting from any relationship.
· Effective Communication
Communication
between men and women has always been a topic of discussion, but the discussion often ends with one saying how they just do
not understand the other. This goes back to the “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” theory.
Often times the communication gap widens the longer the father remains away from the family. This gap will be addressed.
· Establishing
of Group Norms During this session participants will establish what behaviors will be acceptable and/or unacceptable during the
group. This is where they will begin to learn how society determines its laws and daily practices, and
where many of their behaviors are contrary to what are “socially acceptable”. They will be
prompted when necessary, but the intent is for participants to expose their thinking patterns to one another.
This also provokes challenging of those who set norms, but violate them too.
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Parental Responsibilities Defined What exactly are the responsibilities of one parent to the
other parent…to the child? Who defines this responsibility and, does anyone have a proven method
of child-rearing? These questions and more will be answered during this session.
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The Blended Family Where exactly is the line drawn with rights and responsibilities a step-parent
has over children who live under their roof? Should the parents and step-parents have any type of relationship
beyond that of the partner to the child’s parent? We will delve into this seemingly complex relationship.
· Consequences
and Conditions of an Unhealthy Environment Substance abuse, criminality and other forms of abuse seem to be those that many people believe are some of the only
contributors to unhealthy environments. During this session we will review other areas that must be confronted
in order to make way for healthier conditions for children.
Having reviewed and discussed the list of conditions that make for an unhealthy environment in the preceding session,
now we will probe the residue of these conditions. This session will analyze the lives of the participants,
their children and the other parent from varied perspectives.